The Question. Often while sitting in the psychological
counselor’s chair a very common question emerges:
“Why does God allow these
bad things to happen?"
There are many similar takes on this question such as:
“Why does this happen to such an innocent child?”
“If we have such a
good God, then why is there so much suffering in this world?”
“If God was on the
Cross for so manyhours,then why
has my relative been afflicted with this or that ailment for so many
Make your bedroom a
comfortable place. Blankets, bed
covers, and mattress should be cozy and inviting. Get extra pillows. Keep it clean and tidy and introduce pleasant
smells such as a drop of lavender oil on the sheets and bring in pleasant sounds from
nature or white noise.
Do not bring
electronics to bed. Turn off the phone,
IPad, computer, and even the TV. A
modern problem that interferes with a good night’s sleep is binge watching
videos and programs in bed.
In the dead of winter
time of year always makes me think about the season. How can I ignore it? In Chicago the air is usually bitter cold. I’m not talking about it being a little bit
chilly. It’s downright frigid with
temperatures preferring to hover in the subzero range. At times it is difficult to appreciate the
present moment, when I find myself counting the number of months left until spring. Navigating the highways can be quite a
challenge. Every trip out whether on
foot or in a vehicle means risk to one’s body and property.
“A person that loses a partner is called a widow.
A child who loses a parent is called an orphan.
But there is no word to describe a parent that loses a child,
Because the loss is like no other. ..”
(Paraphrased from “An Orphan’s Tale, by J. Neugeboren, 1976)
Recently, there has been a lot of talk about the loss of innocent children, particularly in light of the mass shootings in Sandy Hook, New Jersey. There are no words to describe the grief that a parent experiences after the loss of any child.